Who hasn’t been in a situation where they’ve been ghosted before? Come on… you can be honest. Most of have been if we been dating for any period of time. It’s common although the term is new. Obviously, being ghosted earlier in the relationship is much easier then investing a lot of time and becoming attached only to be left without answers. In the past, I felt it was important for me go get closure by having the conversation with the guy who ghosted me. Sometimes, I was successful but not always. Honestly, some weren’t ready to give me the truth for why they ghosted me. You know what? I may not have been ready to receive the truth… I mean… perhaps it would hurt me more to have the details or question their ‘why’. In this case, ghosting was for the best. Many times the ghost returns or we end up running into each other even if just on social media.
Closure doesn’t always occur in the manner we feel it should. Sometimes, we just have to pick up the pieces and keep on moving without the answers we feel we need. Look at like this… can you give forgive someone who hasn’t apologized to you ? If you answer is no, you’re in trouble. Try relating closure to forgiveness. Forgiveness is about you not the offender. Closure, or maybe I should say moving forward, is also about you as well and not the GHOST. In other words, accept that you may not have all or any of the answers now… heck, you may not ever get the explanation you want… then what? Are you going to stay bitter? Focus on you and the outcome YOU want. Chances are if he or she was snatched out of your grasp, it was for the best anyway at least for the time being.
Have you ever been ghosted by a friend or romantic interest before? Have you moved forward and if so, how did you do it? If not, WHY not? Just Speak On It!!!
I have been ghosted before and it really hurt. I forgave the people who did it and moved on. Life is karma how they treat you will one day will be done to them.
That’s so true! Vengeance is not ours! We must forgive the ghost and forgive ourselves for trusting them. That’s quite a challenge.
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